A friend of mine always says that if you don’t educate your children well, someone else will do it in a bad way. Don’t let it be necessary.
All parents want to help our children in all aspects. The downside comes when the interpretation of “helping our children” means preventing any unpleasant situation from happening.
Without further ado, here is a list of seven unmistakable signs that your child may be in danger of being someone who thinks they can take whatever they want, skip the rules, and indulge their whims instantly, no matter what else. , with the implications this has for its future.
If you discover that your child exhibits three of these behaviors, it is urgent to adjust things. Postponing it could have dire consequences. I’m not joking.
1. Doesn’t do housework
As your child grows, he is better able to take on responsibilities, such as making his bed, serving or clearing the table, washing dishes, washing clothes, sweeping leaves from the garden, or taking garbage to the trash. If your child doesn’t fulfill those responsibilities, you need to help him get started. If you haven’t given him those obligations, you need to make those adjustments with yourself.
2. Has persistent tantrums
If tantrums, tantrums, whining, and yelling are frequent, your experience may tell you that if you keep doing them, you get what you want. For example, the child of a family that goes to church cries and kicks every Sunday in the middle of the sermons time because his mother, in order not to disturb the congregation, takes him out of church and gives him cookies that eat in the garden. Again, it is urgent that you review your family dynamics and be willing to establish simple, but firm rules. But the most important thing is that you enforce them.
3. You are embarrassed in public
I knew some children who whenever they were with their mother, when they met someone they knew, they would say: «Can you give us bread? Mother has not fed us. One day the mother told me that they had eaten ten minutes ago, but they did not like what they ate at all because it had vegetables that they did not find attractive. If your child constantly makes you have embarrassing moments, you need to be very firm and loving to set limits.
4. Obey when you want
You call him and he doesn’t come. He stares at you and even seems to challenge you, but he does not obey the call. Somehow he is sure that he can ignore your instruction without consequences. If you allow this to continue, he will grow up believing that there is no authority to which he is accountable, which could lead to behavior that is extremely harmful to himself and others.
5. Obey when you win something
“If you’re good, I’ll buy you this toy,” or “If you do your homework today, I’ll take you to the zoo on Saturday.” This is equivalent to bribing him to behave properly. You can’t buy their good behavior, especially if you have to do it all the time. Behaving well is a very ambiguous concept in terms of time and mode, and homework must be done daily. What will you do tomorrow for him to do his homework? The weekend will not reach you (nor the strength) to pay him each day of homework.
6. You feel unhappy all the time
If you perceive that your child is not satisfied with anything, that is precisely what happens. Think of the word “happy.” That word means “content,” well adapted and saved. Someone discontented is scattered, scattered, unhappy. Someone who is within the proper limits is happy. Those limits start with waking and sleeping times, and go down to good manners.
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7. Always try to do your bidding
Control is something that children always want. And the best thing to do is never give it to her. It’s the way they’ll best learn how to use it when they have it. And the best thing would be for them to learn that they will never have it completely, because even if you are not there, there will always be something or someone who really has the upper hand: nature, a boss, morals, God, etc.
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As you can see, a child needs firm limits to be happy. The boy who interrupted the church service with his whining and his temper tantrums stopped doing them one day when his mother did not want to take him out for cookies. We all had to put up with a five-minute tantrum that Sunday. The following Sunday, a tantrum episode also occurred. And the next, and the next. However, his mother, being very patient with our reproachful looks, remained inside the church.
Two months later, the little boy was no longer crying. From then on, he sits down and does his best to listen. At least he learned that crying no longer worked to escape the service. Now he was even able to hear the messages.