Not all children are happy in Nursery. How can I help you adjust to this new routine? Find out whether or not it is normal for your child to show so much rejection of Kindergarten.
With the idea that children socialize or learn new habits and routines, many parents send their children to kindergarten even when they have not reached the compulsory school age. On many occasions the child will need an adaptation to feel confident with her teacher, her classmates and her new environment. However, the adaptation is not always successful and the little ones sometimes tend to be very upset when it comes to going to kindergarten, they cry and state that they do not want to go. When this happens you have to rethink certain points to know why the child does not want to go to nursery school and, in an extreme case, analyze whether it is necessary to send it or not.
According to the Spanish pediatrician Carlos González, defender of parenting with attachment and respect for the needs of the child, Nurseries are something of this modern society and it is not a need of the child but rather of their parents or caregivers. No child under 4 years of age necessarily needs to go to daycare to interact with their peers, but until that age the ideal is to strengthen the bond with their own family. This does not mean that daycare is bad for children, but that it is not a natural necessity but imposed by society.
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Even so, if you need to send your child to a Nursery because you need to go to work and have no one to leave him with, pay attention to the choice of the maternity center, talk to who will be his teachers, ask about the activities, the educational guidelines that are still in the institution, and make clear any particularity that you want them to know about your child.
Children are not always happy in daycare. Maybe you send your son at 2 years old and you don’t have any inconvenience or maybe it happens to you like me, I sent my girl at 3 and a half years old and there are still days when she cries and doesn’t want to go.
The ideal then is to first find out why he does not want to go and for how long he maintains that position. If many days pass in which she cries and expresses her dissatisfaction, you will have to find out if there is any external factor; Ask your child if someone is bothering him, or if there is something in particular that he dislikes. Also talk to the teacher alone to establish and find out if something is happening that your child is not liking.
Some symptoms and behaviors will help you show that your child does not want to go to daycare and that it is stressing him out in his daily life. If any of these behaviors lasts over time, you may need to ask yourself if the establishment is the right one for your child, if there is any change in the home that is affecting him on a personal level, or if you take it out and send it in next year when a few months of emotional maturation do your thing.
What you should know is that these behaviors are many times more normal than we think and sometimes just by standing firm and explaining that in kindergarten they will learn beautiful things and make friends, the child will gradually gain confidence.
The first few weeks of daycare can be traumatic for the whole family. Some of these behaviors are normal and gradually subside as the child adjusts to a new life routine.
Cry when it is time to leave for the Nursery
It is one of the most normal behaviors. The excitement caused by the child to know that for a time she will be separated from her mother or father generates great anxiety and anguish. Over time, he will learn that it is only a moment and then he will return home to play with his family.
He became more dependent and had some setbacks
By this behavior you are saying that you want more attention. She wants to understand why they put her in the nursery when she was home playing before. Talk a lot with your child, explain and tell him about the benefits of going to daycare. It can help to tell about your daycare experience when you were little, so the child will see that you empathize with their feelings.
Changes in character
Sometimes children are angry and do not know very well how to express it. You may also find him sadder than usual, or crestfallen. Remember that going to daycare is a big change in your life, so you are trying to deal with all these feelings. Validate those feelings and don’t minimize them. Accompany him, tell him that you know that he is somewhat upset because he does not want to go to nursery but that you know that little by little it will be something fun and he will always want to go.
Even so, if some of these behaviors are perpetuated for many weeks, it would be prudent to evaluate some underlying issues and be attentive to identify if it is something temporary that is improving over time or if, on the contrary, it shows negative changes that are getting worse (he urinates in the bed again, is very angry and hits, cannot sleep or has nightmares, there is not a single day that he does not enter without crying, etc.). In the latter case, seek help and consult a professional. You may decide not to send it out until next year, and that will be fine too.
Never neglect your child in his way of communicating and support him in every step. Growing up is not easy. Nursery is a before and after in the life of a child. Always follow your intuition and you will see that you are choosing the right path.