If you want your child to be the best person in the world, prepare to face many hours of annoyance.
There is no bigger hassle than a parent-teacher meeting. Really those meetings can be a huge yawn if you are not prepared and do not learn to value them. As a psychologist I work in a school and I love my colleagues in educational work. Her constant love and dedication to children is truly commendable. Part of that job is meeting frequently with the students’ parents. For this reason, during the school year, most schools invite parents to attend regular meetings.
Try not to get nervous: its purpose is not to make your life bitter by telling you that your child is unbearable or that your baby is a complainer who does not learn. These meetings, regardless of the school, culture or environment, always have the objective of creating a solid link between two fundamental institutions for the well-being of children: the family and the school. Together, they can achieve educational achievements so important that they guarantee the success of your children.
The importance of the family-school relationship
Research on the parent-school bond is increasing every day. Among its conclusions, it highlights the importance of the family in the educational achievements of children, thanks to the relationship that exists between family support in the pedagogical field and the effectiveness of the school. Additionally, research shows that parents contribute 60% to children’s school success, with school contributing the remaining 40%. Most parents believe that school should educate children, the reality is that education begins in the cradle. In short, school success needs a dose of both institutions, family and school; thus an effective pedagogy is achieved.
Let’s look at some things you need to know before going to a school meeting:
Find out before you act
In general, when children misbehave, they do not tell the whole truth or tell half what has happened. So before you get to school and complain to the teacher, practice self-control and be ready to hear another version of the story.
Reserve the necessary time
It is essential that you put the school meeting on your agenda. Take the time to do this and listen to the teacher. This will make her feel valued and create a relaxed atmosphere. If you are ready to attack or in a hurry, an effective solution to the problems that arise cannot be reached.
Education is born at home
It is important to recognize that the responsibility for your children’s education is yours and that you cannot entirely delegate it to the school. It instills study habits, the fulfillment of achievements, routines, the cleaning and care of the uniform, the order in the backpack, the care of the books and everything that is involved with school activities. Pay attention to homework, recreational activities, parent meetings, the goals that the teacher sets out to achieve for the school year, the needs, difficulties and achievements of your children.
Take an active role
Accompany your children in promoting activities that contribute to intellectual development ( reading, visits to museums, theaters, cinema, music). Encourage their talents and help them develop socialization and conflict management skills. Set a schedule to study, promote good rest and healthy eating.
In front of your children, talk about the teacher in a positive way. Be gentle, reach out and express your affection and gratitude for what he does for your children. Recognize that she is probably also a homemaker, wife, and mother. Consider spending four to six hours a day with your children, leaving aside personal pain, worry and suffering.
Legitimizes the teacher
Don’t disqualify the teacher in front of your children. When a teacher is disqualified, not only does the individual teacher lose legitimacy, but the school’s concept of authority is diminished. Showing an empathic attitude towards the work of the teacher will promote skills in your children to relate to her. In turn, you will promote a positive attitude towards your children in the teacher.
Avoid looking for culprits
When you are distressed by a problem with your children, the common thing is to go out to find a culprit, either a classmate or the teacher herself. It can be difficult to accept that a child has school difficulties or misbehavior, but you need to assume that it can happen. Therefore, before confronting, ally yourself with the teacher. She more than anyone can help you solve the problem.
Assertively raise discrepancies
It is normal that there are some disagreements with whom we live day to day, but be respectful and careful with the words. Remember that what you say matters as much as how you say it. If your child notices that you assertively express your discrepancies, he will learn to resolve conflicts in the same way. Otherwise, if she sees you angry and violent, she will reproduce that attitude in the school environment.
Participate in school meetings and activities
Participate in the activities of the educational project. Your child will appreciate the commitment that their parents’ collaboration means with their learning and will feel accompanied by you and the rest of the family.
Now you know how you can cooperate with the school for the education of your children and you will avoid that attending those school meetings is a real nuisance. The school-family alliance begins the moment you decide to send your child to school. The result of this positive relationship will develop in your child a deep perception of the commitment that both parents and teachers have, so that he is the best person possible and, also, the happiest in the world.