If the teacher has already sent for you because your child does not know how to behave in the group, is aggressive, cannot be in a place or does not learn, do not be angry! Better check that you do not suffer from one of these ten problems.
Unfortunately, it is becoming more common every day to find more children in a classroom presenting behavioral and disciplinary challenges. The American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, of the United States, has revealed that in a group of primary education, 12 percent of the students have learning problems and 7 percent present behavioral problems; 8.5 percent family problems and 2 percent health; so a teacher has a serious problem (and challenge) every day trying to care for, educate and teach a group. Can you imagine what it is like to have a group of children with so many difficulties?
If it is the case that your child’s teacher has sent you to call to tell you that your child has some difficulty, please take his words seriously, do not bother because he may be giving you notice in advance of a problem that, if not taking care of it in a timely manner can become quite a serious matter.
Below you will find a list of ten behavioral problems that you should consider as serious difficulties and that, therefore, must be addressed as soon as possible:
1. Aggression to classmates, teachers and animals
The badly famous bullying -or school bullying- and all kinds of aggression or violence towards teachers and classmates, even animals, should be considered a serious offense, since violence in these times advances rapidly and causes severe damage in all those that surround the child.
2. Intimidation or physical fighting
It is not normal, nor is it for children, they shovel each other. Nor should it be left to “them to fix themselves”, because they often come to blows. Adults must be vigilant to avoid fighting between children, because severe injuries can be inflicted, and even, in drastic cases, death. Just watch the news so you know what we are talking about.
3. Objects (weapons) to threaten
Brandishing knives, sticks, pencils, scissors or any other object that could damage is a serious and important sign that tells us about the explosion of something that had been brewing inside and that is looking for a way out. Be very careful and listen to the signs.
4. Use fire
The particular use of fire to attack or destroy an object or a person can be the beginning of a serious psychological disorder. If your child has a report that refers to the use of fire, it is necessary that you address the subject very seriously and ensure that the incident is never repeated.
5. Take hold of what is foreign
If your child has stolen it is important that you stop this hacking behavior, that you treat it thoroughly. Identifying early and not minimizing the problem in childhood or adolescence can save your child from delinquency in the future, join a criminal gang and end his days in jail. Nobody, including you, wants that horizon for their children.
6. Lies as a daily attitude
Lying in a constant, recidivist or chronic way is warning you of a serious problem, so, please, do not minimize it, because it is not fleeting or funny. Take care that lying is not something common in your family life.
7. Situations involving intimate matters …
… They are another of the great challenges for parents and teachers these days. Everything has its time and its place, and sexual matters must be taught and treated with respect and prudence. Parents are so busy that they do not realize that their children at home are viewing pornography, that they have access from the comfort of home to all kinds of violent and lewd behaviors that they later reproduce at school with their classmates.
This subject, if not taught properly and at the correct age, can become a mental and physical health problem in adolescence and adult life with dire consequences.
8. Destruction of property
Another criminal conduct that has its origins in childhood and youth that costs parents more legal problems is the destruction of other people’s property. That is not your case, please.
9. Suspicion or use of substances
Alcohol, cigarettes and many other substances that are harmful to health also, unfortunately, begin in their consumption every day at younger ages. Your children and their happiness deserve that you are on the lookout in this area.
10. Running away from school or home
Going to these extremes means that your child no longer has the slightest respect for your authority, that he no longer fears the consequences that may come from violating the rules and orders that you have stipulated for his good. At this point, your son has already exceeded many limits and your work as a father has to be taken up conscientiously and with a “heavy hand.”
If an authority, a teacher, a family member or a good friend tells you that your child is doing something wrong, listen and review their behavior, because it is preferable to rule out a problem than not knowing you have it.
Take care of and dedicate your children and never allow father’s love to blind you to the wrong things they do. Correcting and disciplining is also love.