One of the greatest prides of a father is knowing that his children are exemplary citizens. To achieve this, a solid formation in values within the home is necessary. The heart of society beats in the family.
Human beings are gregarious. That means that we gather, we gather in groups to supply all of our needs and thus we manage to develop our potentials. Because we are born without having completed our minimal functions for survival, Nature placed us in a basic group nucleus whose members help us develop until we are able to fend for ourselves. That core is the family.
The objective of our development in the family environment, however, is not only intended to enable us to survive, but goes further: it must empower us to help others to develop. We do this, obviously, when we become procreators of a new being, but also when we leave the family nucleus and help people from our second level of human aggregation: society.
We are civilized beings
Because we do not just live as a family, but in a larger and more complex community: society. The conditions that must prevail in a family nucleus so that life in it is pleasant, encourages the development and fulfillment of its members, must also be the ideal environment for a civilized society.
You know I love etymologies. The Latin word civitas was the word that the ancient Romans used to refer to the highest level of civilization, coexistence, agreement and solidarity within their community. From that voice derive words in Spanish such as “civilización”, “civismo”, “ciudad”, “civil”, et cetera.
Now I am going to show you how the first social nucleus in which we must show the highest civic values is the family:
Me and the others
Civic culture (or civics) is everything that helps us to coexist in a community. The main foundation of citizenship is the recognition of the wants, needs, properties and problems of others. This is called solidarity. Does it sound familiar to you”? It should, because being aware of what others want, need, possess and live is a crucial line for the good family life.
Respecting your partner’s space is a sign of love
What is mine, what is foreign, what belongs to everyone
In addition to solidarity, civility is actually another family value: if we take into account that civic culture is manifested in the attitude that each person assumes with respect to the material environmental environment and common goods, we will realize that the first and The most important place where we have learned to live by those standards is the home. We learn to respect the efforts of others when they clean and tidy the house, we avoid damaging the environments of the home and we follow safety rules and protocols that our parents give us.
Isn’t good civic culture then really a matter of good living together at home?
Citizenship begins in the family
In short, if your home is a place where family members learn, through teaching and example, to respect, help, care, cooperate, serve others, and treat each other with kindness and courtesy, your Integration at other levels of society will be much easier, more fruitful and rewarding than it could be if these principles are not lived at home.
If family members are used to keeping their living spaces clean (bedroom, study, workshop), not to break into other people’s spaces, to preserve in good condition the spaces and objects of common use (dining room, living room, garden, care of the pet, the car, etc.), this will be reflected in a civic conduct of the highest level, starting with a responsible attitude at school, work and at all levels of association that they have.
But more importantly: if we are not successful in treating the members of our family with the highest values of coexistence, it will matter little and the impact that our person has on other social nuclei will be very poor.
In this article you will find another way to be a good member of society.