Every year, for more than a century, we continue talking about discrimination, machismo, gender violence. We continue to search the streets for what we must begin to conquer at home.
This March 8 marks the 105th anniversary of the first time what we call International Women’s Day was celebrated. To get to have our day we have worked like men, persevered like martyrs, fought like beasts; we have multiplied our forces as if by magic, but at the same time we have remained true to our genre.
However, the issue of our rights is not yet over. The greatest challenge remains: educate men who see women as beings worthy of love, respect, empathy, support, faith and encouragement. Just as we have been able to overcome circumstances, it is necessary to teach them to see ourselves not as a necessary evil, but as an important part of the world, an essential and not a secondary part.
Required Reading: The Difference From Women’s Day To Being A Woman Every Day.
Every year those 129 women are remembered who on March 8 said: “Enough!” And decided to raise their voices to win their rights. However, every year, for more than a century, we continue to speak of discrimination, machismo, gender violence. We continue to search the streets for what we must begin to conquer at home. “If you’re looking for different results, don’t always do the same thing,” Albert Einstein said.
What women have been doing wrong
1. Breeding stereotypes
You are not doing your son a favor by preventing him from knowing how to wash his clothes, much less your daughter if you tell her that she was not born to change a tire. It is true that there are roles, but they do not have to be exclusive; in any case, that they are complementary and equitable.
2. Punish boys for showing their emotions
It is typical for children to be beaten, punished or reproached when they are vulnerable. And we do it based on the idea that these behaviors are not appropriate, and that we have to educate them to be “men.” By doing this, we desensitize them, and then we complain.
3. Consider working at home as a female obligation
It often happens that we say that our husbands are not macho because they help us around the house, without realizing the sexist burden of the phrase itself. By expressing ourselves in that way, it is as if they are doing us a favor and not that they are fulfilling a responsibility, as in fact it should be, as in fact it is.
Children see in their parents the reference that will guide them for the type of adults they will be. If you feel inferior because you are a woman, that is what you are teaching them. Believe that you deserve less because you are a woman, because you are poor, because you have a disease; All these behaviors damage your children’s judgment.
5. Live in sacrifice
The attitude of giving up everything that may interest us, feeling guilty for having needs and desires, promote machismo. Considering as “correct” that men have aspirations, but if we have them, we are selfish, sows the idea that it is an exclusive right of the male sex.
I am a fervent defender of the family, of values, of the so-called “good customs.” But we cannot talk about family, values or good customs, if any of these concepts serves to hurt, exclude and promote the idea that worth has to do with the reproductive organs.
We have let a century and little more go by fighting to make a difference socially, but behind closed doors we have continued to do the same. Let’s remember what Einstein said. Changing from the inside out is the real challenge of every day so that there really is something to celebrate.
Don’t stop reading: Neither feminism, nor machismo, gender equity.