Tell him you love him, but an action is worth a thousand words. How do you show love to your children every day?
A few days ago, in my city, a family notified the authorities of the loss of one of their children. The parents had been waiting for their son to return from school, but hours passed and their son did not come.
When the police began to interview them in search of information to resolve the whereabouts of the minor, they realized something worrying: neither parent could describe how he had been dressed to school, and they were not sure exactly what time he would leave that day of the school, or who were his friends he used to go home with.
The police officer encountered parents who were very distracted and with little contact with their children, so he suggested something ridiculous by saying, “Have you already checked his room?” The parents were very upset at such a suggestion, but doubting themselves ran to the room where they found the little boy peacefully asleep. The boy had returned home and no one had noticed. Can you believe it?
Saying I love you is not the same as proving it
All parents say we love our children unconditionally, but when it comes to showing it, we are no longer so effusive.
Work, times and life itself make us easily distracted from the really important things in terms of raising our little ones, and we don’t realize it until they grow up and problems appear.
Actions are much more powerful than words
Child Trend ,An American non-profit organization dedicated to research on improving the lives of children, youth and their families, stated that the love and attention that parents give to their children in the early stages of life are essential for can develop positive attitudes throughout their lives.
Children who received affection and affection from their parents achieve higher self-esteem in their adult life, higher academic averages and therefore complete their studies. In turn, they do not show behavioral or mental problems and communication with their parents is healthy and full of trust.
On the other hand, adults who did not receive these displays of affection and love in their childhood became men and women with low self-esteem, prone to failed love relationships; they are hostile, aggressive, distrustful, antisocial, and have difficulty completing their education or adapting in their community.
Science confirms it
In 2010, researchers from the School of Medicine of the Duke university found that babies whose mothers were more affectionate and given to physical contact, turned out to be more resilient children and later adults with less anxiety. The study followed the development of 500 people, for 30 years.
Another significant aspect that made the difference between the children was the skin-to-skin contact they had with their parents. Children require affectionate caresses from their parents; Touching them, massaging them, lovingly creaming them, bathing them, sleeping together are actions that develop strong bonds between parents and children.
Those who received physical affection in their childhood become adults who experience less stress in difficult moments in life such as accidents and academic tests. So regardless of the age of your children, today you can start show them your love , not just in words.
Actions to show love
– Seek to touch your children frequently if they are small, do not hesitate to lull them, touch their face; When they are older, don’t miss the opportunity to hug and kiss them, touch their hair, and let them know and feel how valuable they are to you.
-Learn to express physical affection who was not raised with demonstrations of physical affection, when he is older it may be possible that he feels uncomfortable trying to show his affection, but like everything good in life, it is possible if you decide to do it. Little by little, a daily hug to each member of the family can be a very good start.
-Never stop playing with them as our children grow we have the opportunity to play with them, with adolescents mainly it is easier to touch them while playing because many times at this stage young people apparently move away from their parents, but deep down they continue needing the love and security that their parents give them.
-Laugh with them, raising healthy children will always be easier in a happy house, where there are jokes and good humor. Children who are raised inpositive environments they become optimistic young people and adults, confident of themselves and better in control of their emotions.
-Spend time in family life to have dinner together, watch TV, go to the movies or calmly do homework every day. Visit grandparents or other family and friends, let your children live with their cousins and encourage all those activities where the family can spend time together.
-When you talk to them, get at their height so that you can see them in the eye and they see you.
-Sitting with them to read or play is a very positive moment for the emotional relationship.
-Make story time at night the happiest time of the day. Lie down with your children and hug them while you read aloud to them.
-Spend time with each child separately, especially when you have several children.
-Create family traditions when difficult times in life reach you, always in your memory and in your heart you will have good memories in which you can take refuge to regain strength and move forward.
-Go to their school activities, for them it is very important and if you will not be able or you think you will not arrive, be honest and say it they will understand and it is much better than a disappointment or disappointment.
Not only children need all these signs of love in their life, but also the adults around you. If you start giving love, very soon you too will be receiving a lot of affection that will heal your own wounds.