Being a dad is difficult and many times you may believe that you are not that important in your family. It is time to convince yourself that what you contribute is invaluable, you are indispensable.
Being a dad is definitely hard; there are many obligations, responsibilities and demands that are sure to leave you exhausted at the end of the day. Many times when you get home from work, what you are looking for is a time of relaxation and solitude, but the reality is that from the moment you get home you meet your little ones, who have missed you during the day and want to play with you. Maybe sometimes you tell them that tiredness just doesn’t allow it, but I guess many other times you find yourself playing with them even with the tie around your neck. Playing with your little ones is not something trivial and unimportant, the effort you are making to do this is not in vain, your children benefit from this time you spend with them.
Our culture sends mixed messages regarding your role as a parent. On the one hand they tell you that you are essential, but on the other they tell you that you do not have the skills to do it and even make fun of the way parents take care of their children – or rather the inability to take care of them. If you’ve ever wondered how important you are, it’s time to accept that you are an essential part of your children’s growth. Of course, your skills are different than Mom’s and that is precisely what makes you invaluable. Here are five reasons why you are indispensable:
1. You play with your children in a unique way
It is a fact that the father plays with his children in a way that the mother does not; and this is very good because your children need both. Dads usually play much more physically and motivate their children to do a lot more with their little bodies, something that moms sometimes don’t do, as they tend to be extra careful. This aspect is very important, as it sends the message that you believe in them and in their ability to do much more than they believe.
2. You provide the image of what it really means to be an honorable man
For both sons and daughters it is absolutely essential to have a hero, an image of what it really means to be a man. This image comes from you, and although there may be other good men in your children’s lives, the reality is that very rarely can they take your place and your importance. A son needs to know, see and feel what a man is to try to follow these steps as he grows; a daughter needs to know about this in the same way because how can she choose good friends, boyfriends and in her due time husband when she has no idea what to look for or expect in a man? Dad, your hero image is invaluable.
3. You give advice from a unique perspective
Just like the way you play, your perspective is unique; And your children need it because they don’t get it from anyone else. Your experiences, good or bad, help your children aspire to have a family and learn from your mistakes — yes, even your mistakes are invaluable in their growth.
4. You give the love your children need
Any child needs the love of a mother and father; both are important. It is not enough to know that their mother loves them: when you come home and give them hugs and kisses, this reaffirms their place in this world; It reminds them that they are important, that they are loved and worthy of belonging in this family. When they receive from your love, they learn how to give it, and that is essential in their emotional development.
5. You are the other half of the orange
The support and love you give to your wife is probably one of the best gifts you can give your children. The reality is that when you have a mutually supportive relationship, your wife is a better mother because of your support, love, and advice. In other words, when you push yourself hard as a husband, you are indirectly doing a phenomenal job as a father as well. No one else can do this but you.
It is time to stop wondering if what you do matters, or if you are important beyond the financial aspect in your family; The answer is indisputable: of course it is! Give yourself your importance, your value, and realize how much your family needs you. You are a super dad and a hero to your children. It is time to internalize this message and not only believe but know that you are doing a job of the utmost importance; you are dad and you are indispensable.