It has ever happened to all of us to feel far from those who are closest to us. We can be meters away physically, but our hearts are far away. This article will help you get closer to those you love.
There are times in our life when we feel alone. Has it happened to you that despite being accompanied you feel far from your family? Have you felt that in meetings you do not connect or communicate, that your relationship with any of the members of your environment has eroded?
Sometimes others hurt us and we hope that they change, that they recognize their mistake. As dialogue is difficult, the distance is growing. But if we put our hands on our hearts, we will understand that there are matters that can be forgiven to simply move on.
On the other hand, it is possible that even if you have not had any specific conflict with someone in your family, you feel that you have lost that connection. This may be because you haven’t been spending time with them due to the demands of everyday life. It is possible to reverse the situation and reconnect with your family. If you follow these tips, you will see that it is not so difficult:
Loving means accepting the other. Understand that others have their difficulties, defects, limitations. The bond that binds you to them is true, but you must fight so that love does not wear out. Acceptance is an essential value so that love is the force that is always present in your family.
Be able to ask for forgiveness and to forgive
How many times do we get carried away by grudges, resentments? Eradicating them from your life is difficult, but not impossible. The other person has the right to be wrong, he is human. As we forgive each other, we can strengthen our family ties and prevent our hearts from hardening.
Put yourself in the place of others
This point is closely linked to forgiveness, since when we put ourselves in the place of the other and understand him, we can truly forgive him. You will avoid many arguments if you manage to comply with this. Even when you see others getting angry, you can control your anger by passing it through the filter of understanding.
Try to get closer instead of waiting for them to do it or for the perfect circumstances to occur.
Approaching a conflict does not mean forgetting differences but putting them aside. If our goal is to strengthen love, it is important to put aside the pride that does not allow us to get closer. Remember that true strength does not lie in winning arguments, but in showing that we put love above the selfishness of always wanting to be right.
Seek to do different activities
The ones they always do when they get together. Changing your routine helps a lot. Shake off the dust of habit and look for new alternatives to add color to your family life.
Always look them in the eye
Eye contact with others helps us recognize them as equals. For something it is said that the eyes are the mirror of the soul. If we talk without looking into the eyes it will be easier to say things that hurt because it seems that we forget who we are talking to.
It is essential to be better with your loved ones. Each type of relationship will have a different contact, but whether it is your children, partner or parents, a show of affection, a hug, a kiss, will help to feel that affection for others again and strengthen ties.
If you feel disconnected from your loved ones, it could be that you are failing in one of these points. And remember that realizing conflicts is wonderful, it is the first step to change. On the other hand, if you can speak from love, from the heart, honestly, you will see amazing results. Your relationship with others will radically improve and if you do not achieve it, at least you will have a clear conscience of having put the best of yourself.
Visit Maia Fernández’s blog: