Children are the stars of the end of the year parties and we all like to entertain them. However, the excess of present can be harmful for its development. Would you like to know why?
I consider that one of the most satisfying things Christmas and the New Year leave us with is seeing and experiencing the joy that comes from giving someone something that makes them happy. Giving is a wonderful pleasure and giving to those we love, especially our family, makes us feel as happy or happier than the recipient.
Giving to children is especially significant: seeing the surprise on their face when opening the gifts that the Three Wise Men or Saint Nicholas left at home, is unmatched. Trouble comes once the holiday excitement has passed. Suddenly, there are toys everywhere, missing pieces, lawsuits among children, frustration among parents, because toys that cost very expensive or that, even, have not even finished paying, are already broken or decomposed.
The most serious problem —among all the previous ones— has to do with the fact that the child under the age of ten has too many toys, as it favors the development of behaviors, habits and anti-values that are not recommended in the formation stage of a human being. How do I know if my child has too many toys?
1. When there are toys all over the house
If when walking around the house you invariably come across toys, this is a first wake-up call because three things are happening: lack of order, discipline at home and, thirdly, your child has more toys than he is capable of. drive.
2. When there are fights between brothers
If you are over 35, answer: when you were little, did your parents buy a bicycle for each child? A television for each child? Were there many bathrooms at home? You will most likely answer no. In those times, families had more children and children had to wait turns to ride the bicycle, to take the bathroom, and to negotiate to watch television programs. The current mistake of parents under thirty is buying toys for each child, “so they don’t fight,” instead of teaching sharing, waiting and negotiating, since educating takes more time and we are not willing to do it. Believe it or not, having few toys generates the feeling of sharing them, interesting right?
3. When there is carelessness or misuse of toys
I have a rule that I love and I quote it whenever I can: “Where there is too much, something is missing and what is left does not replace what is missing.” If we could thoroughly review each case in homes where there are too many toys, we often find that parents are divorced and try to compete with each other to see who gives more, assuage guilt or buy the love of the child with gifts because they are not present with them. There are also complacent mothers who do not know how to handle a tantrum, who cannot set limits and tired fathers, without interest in educating or training their children. Almost always, when this happens the children perceive it and the object loses value, interest and there are cases where the little one destroys the toy on purpose. And one more: when the little ones simply do not value what they are given, it is because they have everything and it has cost them nothing to earn it.
If you know that there are too many toys … how to change the situation?
Excess stimulation quenches desire. Having too many toys saturates the child, limits her desire to experiment and discover the world around her and that is terrible if we are talking about the development of her intelligence and her ability to relate socially. But how to change this situation?
1. Take an inventory
First things first: check which toys your children prefer and keep them. Then ask them to put those that are not so special in a box to take to other children. Do not force them, or make this activity something stressful, rather take the time to play and ask why this or that toy is special and why another is not. Talk to them about the order and care that the toys should be given and set a rule of order so that they are always in their place. If there are damaged toys, see how to repair them so that they can be of use again or for someone else.
2. A change in mindset and giving toys
Talk to the Three Wise Men and Santa Claus so that their gifts also include books, clothes, tickets to an event, vouchers for hugs and kisses. They can also consider as valuable gifts service projects, chemistry sets, pastries, stones, beads, craft supplies and anything else that arouses curiosity, the desire to invent and create their own games and toys.
Relee: A house should always have more books than toys.
3. Stimulating is not the same as entertaining
And finally, remember that stimulating is not giving a cell phone, a tablet or the most expensive or fashionable toy. That is, most of the time, to entertain them and not disturb the adults while they do their own activities. To stimulate many times is to leave free time to create, discover and even get bored, the latter being one of the main sources of creation of the best inventions of childhood. I invite you to take a tour of your children’s bedroom and discover if there is something missing or too much left over.
Relee: Learning goes beyond school.