During adolescence and youth, friendships can become decisive for the success or failure of a young person. Being alert about our children’s friendships is very important.
Do you remember your friendships from adolescence? Or from your youth? Was there a time that any of your friends didn’t like your parents? Surely yes.
During these stages of adolescence and youth we meet those who will become our best friends, life companions or even with whom, in the future, we will do business and share jobs and have important experiences. Hence the choice of our friends is such a relevant issue for parents of all ages.
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Now, our parents already rest (a little) from the responsibility of taking care of our friends, and the turn to worry and take care of it is ours now: if it is your case that your child at this time has friends that you do not like or dislike concern, it is very important that you carefully read the following five recommendations so that you can put them into practice as soon as possible:
1. Don’t put it between a rock and a hard place
The most important thing that you should not remove from your mind is the love you have for your child: wise, intelligent love, love that, please be careful not to confuse with dominance or overprotection. Think about this: if you push too hard on your child to leave something or someone that is important to him, he will most likely distance himself from you first than from the things and people he considers valuable. So please, be prudent, be smart, and never go too hard or try to force. That doesn’t work and has catastrophic consequences.
2. He must know that his parents trust him
Living and exercising freedom is one of the most special gifts that human beings experience. At home we are given wings and we learn to fly throughout our lives. Choosing our friends prepares us for, later, knowing how to choose our life partner; doing it and experiencing the good and bad consequences are part of learning. The young person must know that his parents trust him and his good decisions, and that if he needs their support, advice or help, they will be there.
3. How is your son with his friends?
If you feel fearful or have doubts about the friends your child has, I recommend that you encourage him to take them home frequently: to spend some time with video games, to go out with the family for walks in the park or in the field , to celebrate a birthday and any other activity in which you have the opportunity to get to know them better and discover how they are and above all, what your child is like when he is with them and why he esteems them and wants their company. Be observant, but be very cautious.
4. Out labels
Sometimes, parents make the mistake of judging by appearances. We judge and label others for their education, their religion, their skin color, their social status and a thousand other things, committing very serious mistakes. If you don’t like someone, it may be because there is something about that person that gives you a feeling that you don’t like about yourself or your own story, but your child doesn’t have to pay that price.
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5. Learn to be a parent
If your child is feeling attracted to something new and different, help him discover it together; Ask him to explain to you, to teach you, to show you why he likes it so much and to discover the magic of what he is passionate about. Do not judge him, do not criticize him, give your advice if he asks for it and express your opinion if it is positive.
A father feeds, raises and protects a little one, but fatherhood and motherhood are polished with adolescents and refined with young adults. The title of good father and friend is received from the hands of your child when, as an adult, he comes back to you again and again to tell you about his life, his successes and failures, as one who talks to his best friend.
That is your goal, do not lose sight of it and work to achieve it.