Do you belong to a group of parents at your child’s school on whatsapp? If you are really interested in your child’s education and healthy communication, read this information that will be very useful.
I would like to think that all parents who belong to a social network, or to an instant or mobile communication group (particularly WhatsApp), are sincerely interested in establishing societies for the education and improvement of their children. And I say that I would like it because what I have observed most often is exactly the opposite: these are groups that lend themselves to everything except for improvement and support between parents for their children.
If in your school you belong to a group or society of parents, I invite you to read these eight recommendations, and if you think they can benefit your group, do not hesitate to share and apply them. Do you like the idea? Let’s see, review with me the approach and its solution:
1. Effective communication vs gossip
These groups are created and organized to be in contact and have information related solely and exclusively to your child and their school group. That is the principle that you must not lose sight of. However, when parents lose their vision, these groups made up of mostly ladies are anything but what is expected of them. Don’t use your group to gossip or share information that should be kept private.
Seeks and encourages parents to communicate effectively in order to support their children’s education. Nothing else.
2. Don’t be hot blooded
Answering “the first thing that comes to mind”, sending a thousand beautiful faces, a huge amount of emoticons, photos and jokes can really be very annoying for others. Because not only do we saturate the memory of cell phones, but also, with so many alarms due to the input of message after message, we interrupt the work or activities of others.
Give your group meaningful feedback.
3. I think, then write and send
Send from a joke in bad taste, a meaningless photograph or even direct attacks on another parent, teachers, school or worse yet, children! It should not be done! And under no circumstances. Do not write anything that is aggressive, or use offensive words. What we write can easily be misinterpreted by another, hurt susceptibilities and used against you if it is decontextualized.
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Remember that in a matter of social networks and everything that is shared through the internet, it is never deleted and you do not know who will read it.
4. You are not your child’s secretary
Another serious mistake made by parents and groups is that they use this medium to “ask for homework.” Don’t do this, please! It is your child’s responsibility and a matter for you to discuss with the teacher, not other parents.
If you are used to solving this type of situation for your child, do not be surprised after he becomes a teenager or an adult that you will always have to rescue, because you never encouraged him to learn to face his own consequences.
5. Personality impersonators children
Did you know that many of the serious problems that occur in these types of groups have to do with messages that the child wrote pretending to be the father or the mother? Yes, as you read it: there are young people who, posing as an adult, have generated problems even of a legal nature.
Be smarter and take care of everything from your passwords to your computers.
6. It is low, cowardly and mean to talk about children
Anger, anger and frustration can make us lose our sanity in a moment and say and write terrible things. Never, never write something that speaks ill of a child. That’s low, cowardly, and mean. No matter how bad a child may have, you don’t know the challenges he or his family faces; therefore, do not hurt a child in a group of adults. You would never allow someone to do the same with your child, right?
If a parent does it, have the courage to tell them not to do it for the good of all the children.
7. No complaints or gossip; speak up front
The teacher who takes care of your child is a father or mother like you: he has children, a job, a home, frustrations and needs just like you; For him, your son is a student just like 20 or 30 others, and he seeks to care for, protect, attend to, and the most incredible of all: educate. So his task is not very easy to say, and if to that you add that many families send their children without the minimum necessary in values and respect, why am I talking to you!
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Please do not speak ill of the teacher behind their back in a group where words are thrown like stones, because then they hide their hand. If there is something that you dislike or annoy you about the teacher regarding your child’s education, go to him directly, make an appointment and discuss your discomfort with the right person in the right place, otherwise they are only complaints to the air that damages and solves nothing.
8. Common sense
They say common sense is the least common to find, and I think that statement is often true. Don’t get caught up in meaningless discussions or debates, don’t use the parent group to vent all your dissatisfactions and frustrations; rather, think and conduct yourself decently, properly, and with much, much common sense.
Do not lose sight that our responsibility as parents is for life, while that of the teacher only lasts one school year.