Children between the ages of two and three show an overwhelming desire to be free. “I do it by myself” seems to be her motto. Is it a good idea to let them play in the kitchen to develop their independence?
When a baby comes home, the life of the whole family is revolutionized. Time passes too quickly and soon that child who babbled and looked around with big curious eyes today goes and comes around the house with complete ease and confidence: he climbs, goes up, goes down and touches everything he can and what he should not. Our baby is almost two years old and we wonder how he grew up so fast. Coupled with the physical changes come the emotional ones and the great personality changes.
Between the ages of two and three, children show an overwhelming desire to be free. “I do it by myself” seems to be her motto. In this stage they experience the detachment of mom and dad, and they realize that they are independent beings that can experience things for themselves. This period is essential to achieve the development of their independence throughout their lives and to promote their personality traits.
There are everyday situations in which we can help them learn, and almost without realizing it, that also helps us as parents to avoid tantrums or tantrums when they want to do this or that thing and we do not allow it. When the dozens of toys that abound around the house no longer amuse your child, here are some options to develop their independence from a young age and help them to know themselves.
Children love to play with water. Be it winter or summer, there is no child in the world who does not entertain himself with a few bowls and a tap. My 21-month-old daughter drags the chair into the kitchen and gets ready to go upstairs; She asks me in her language to open the faucet and the game begins. Meanwhile, I have time to continue preparing the food and we are both happy: she plays at washing dishes and I continue with my chores.
To clean it has been said
When a glass of water is spilled, or when some food is accidentally dropped on the floor, it is normal for one to scold the child and say with an angry face: “Look what you did!” Whether accidental or on purpose, the child likes to see the cause-effect reaction of things. He wants to know what happens if he throws some peas over here, or if he pours another little rice over there. In this case it is good to teach him that what gets dirty gets cleaned; And so he can see that “he alone” can clean up what he has done. The game will then be dirty-clean, and he will see that he can also do what Mom and Dad do (of course, the rest of the cleaning will be up to you later).
There comes a point in the day when crayons are no longer fun, dolls and cars are thrown around every corner of the house, and our baby starts throwing tantrums about anything – he’s probably bored! But you have a thousand things to do. What you don’t know yet is that you have a little helper. Children love to see that they can be of great help to others. Ask him to hand you things – even if you don’t need them – or to put this inside that, or to move an object to another part of the house. Do not forget to be clear, concise, ask please and then thank their work with a big smile. Saying, “You’ve helped mom / dad a lot today, thank you son” is a good option and your child will be proud to have helped.
Like these, there are many other options that you can put into practice with your little one at home to develop his independence and strengthen his personality. Always keep in mind that everything that is asked with love bears its fruits; “Thank you” and “please” should not be missing in your vocabulary.
Always encourage him to keep going, even when he feels discouraged because he has not managed to do this or that; Parents are their guides, and if they see that we are not losing our cool it will be easier for them to get back on track. Remember that phrase that says: “Don’t worry about your children listening to you, they are always watching you.”