Science says your renegades will be worth it….
According to a study by an Australian scientist, a person being moody could mean that their IQ is higher. Of course, we are not going to console ourselves with this and let our child walk with his face on the floor for anything just because “he is intelligent”, but at least we will have more tools to accompany him in his way of processing information and managing his emotions.
As reported by the BBC, the study was conducted by Professor Joe Forgas, from the University of New South Wales, in Australia and consisted of taking several people, including a large majority of children, who were shown a certain movie. Then, they had to think about positive and negative events in their lives in order to make them feel “bad” or “good”.
Then, they were given a series of exercises, according to the BBC, such as judging the veracity of certain popular beliefs, or giving details of an event they have witnessed.
The moody outnumbered the jovial
The result showed that those people who were frequently negative and moody were able to carry out the activities more successfully: they were better communicators, made fewer mistakes and had more ability to argue.
Positive humor versus negative humor
According to this research, while positive humor seems to promote creativity, flexibility and cooperation, bad humor activates a more attentive and careful way of thinking, causing the person to pay more attention to the external world, as Forgas explains in the study.
So is grumpiness a good thing in children?
I believe that it is not a question of saying that the bad temper is something positive for a person, but simply that their way of being can have some positive consequences, as the research says. But it is not about encouraging and nurturing this moodiness in children, because no child enjoys seeing life in a negative way. The constant encouragement of parents and good disposition can help the child to have a clearer and more positive vision of life or of certain situations
I don’t know why, but at some point I relate to this article. I don’t consider myself a moody person, but I do tend to be grumpy (but since I am a Gemini my grumpy state lasts only a few minutes). My mother sometimes tells me to stop being so negative; However, now I understand that in truth, what I do is question myself all the time about things, be critical and more reflective. I am not convinced too quickly, and I usually see the “but” to everything. I don’t know if I’m smarter, but at least I already have consolation.
Being grumpy has its benefits, as we can see, As Forgas mentions: “Negative moods indicate that we are in a new and challenging situation, and they make us more attentive and observant.” Thus, those children and adults who are characterized by being grumpy are usually the ones who are most alert to certain circumstances, as opposed to those who are always very happy.
Help grumpy kids
As we mentioned before, it is not about letting our son walk through life in a bad mood just because “if science says so, it is because he is smarter.” It is about accompanying him and helping him navigate his emotions when that temper goes out of line and begins to influence his daily relationships, school life, and family life. Talking with them, giving them encouragement and letting them understand that we are here to help them, can be a great incentive for them to regain their calm and to express what is happening to them.
If you or your child are grumpy or moody, you already have a consolation and can show off smarter. Do you also think that moody people are smarter?