Nobody wants to work 12 hours, but we do demand it from children. Go to school, extracurricular activities and then homework. And when to play?
If this article caught your attention, it is because you have probably been spending many afternoons with your son watching him work late and maybe even, you have fallen into the temptation to help him or even do his homework, as long as he goes to sleep without worry of not having fulfilled the duties.
Are you currently living this family drama at home?
I say “drama” because the homework situation does not end with doing or not doing the homework, but while that is happening, your child or the children cried, you were late, you had other commitments that you left aside, you argued with your husband Well, he wanted them to go out and that was not possible, and because in addition to homework, the children have other classes or after-school activities; and at the end of the day, everyone goes to bed sad or with a bad taste in their mouths.
True? A true family drama
If you have been with this situation for a long time, surely you are worried and desperate and do you know something? You are right to be.
There are several studies that currently confirm what many of us already assumed: our children are overstimulatedand saturated with activities, mainly tasks that are depriving them of enjoying family time, time to rest, play, be children and enjoy their childhood.
But calm down! Before making decisions, I invite you to review some important points.
Before enrolling your child in a school, research their policy regarding homework
Nothing is more unpleasant and frustrating than entering school, beginning to adjust, and discovering that school is not what you wanted. It is very important that you ask any details that occur to you before deciding or enrolling in a college, especially everything that has to do with homework.
Ask openly about:
There’s homework? How many tasks are sent per week? Of all subjects? How much time on average should a child dedicate to schoolwork? Are they graded? Does it have weight in the evaluation? Is there a center for homework at school? Plus everything that occurs to you to inquire for your peace of mind and the healthy development of your little one.
Check with your child’s teacher how homework is organized
Once you have entered the school, listen to the teacher and again get all the information you require regarding to chores.
There is something we should mention: Children and many adolescents require supervision when doing their homework at home. Attention, this does not mean that you do the work for him or solve all the challenges that doing the task can involve, it is about supervising that he sits down to work, that he is not distracted, but above all, be alert to the use of technology.
Teachers do not expect parents to do the homework or explain the lessons to the children, that is our responsibility, what in general we expect is that they supervise that their children do them, that they bring the homework down for themselves as they grow and achieve To do so, give them a brief explanation in case they do not understand something and if not, send the homework back to the teacher and notify them where the child had problems.
Remember: Tasksthey are to consolidate or exercise what was seen in class or obtain information to open a new topic. A “filling” task does not contribute to training, not even habits, and must be very specific and effective.
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Check your little one’s work rate
Checking a child’s work rhythm refers to taking time to observe and get to know your little one, what his study habits are like, what distracts him, what is easy for him and what challenges him to improve. The development of each child can be very particular and adults must be respectful, know where or when to pressure or motivate, and when to stop doing it and just accompany.
Analyze the family agenda
Parents who have several children, we know how valuable are the huge wall agendas where we can see in a global way all the activities of each member of the family and then organize ourselves so that each and every one, arrives on time or fulfills their duties. . Those who have one or only two children live their family agendas in another way: they tend to fill the child with activities and then the parents organize their lives under the child’s agenda.
Regardless of your family, get organized and that will greatly reduce the stress and anxiety of running from one place to another.
With great sincerity, ponder the following:
Is the school and homework schedule organized for your child’s well-being or for your comfort?
When parents review this question with great sincerity and honesty, they often find that the tasks are not so many or that their child’s work rate is not as slow as they think; What is happening in the background is that the child is loaded with extra classes “while they go to school”, “while the parents leave work” or “to take advantage of the time.” Simply put, a child’s agenda is often designed for the parents’ convenience.
Children are not slow, parents are running
Children don’t have “too many chores” they have parents “too busy” to spend time on them.
Children require time to play freely, have free time and be able to sleep full hours that help them rest and develop.
All adults protest when our workday exceeds the established time, but when it comes to our children, We don’t think that they too can get to “work” up to 12 hours a day, at school and then at home. Never minimize children’s activities by thinking that they are only “playing games”. Children must have time to play freely, get bored, rest, be with their parents and sleep to grow.
Childhood passes in “the blink of an eye”, enjoy them and allow them to enjoy this beautiful stage that will not return, spend so much time with them that you can record memories of beautiful experiences for their entire lives.
You will never regret it, I assure you!