Emotional maturity leads people to be happier despite difficulties.
A few days ago I had an unpleasant experience; But like all situations in life, he left me a valuable lesson.
Some social networksThey allow the creation of groups that people join if they have common tastes. In a group of these in favor of a film, the death of one of the characters most loved by most of those present was debated.
I began to read the comments around that debate, and I found that of a girl of perhaps 13 years old who wrote that she felt very sad (the text reflected her feelings) as a result of a number of events in that film.
In my years I understand that in adolescence we tend to suffer for things that make no sense, and this event was just that. It seemed only fair to give my “grown-up” opinion of the situation, and to give her some comfort. But in the midst of such drama, I got my share of not “going along with it” and feeling sorry for her pain. The response was aggressive, but it didn’t surprise me.
It’s not that I don’t understand that someone can suffer for that kind of thing; is that from my perspective it makes no sense to feel pain for something like a movie. Nor have I been a person to feel sorry for myself or anyone, so when someone suffers, my reaction is to open their eyes so that they see reality, find comfort and can move on.
That attitude is not something I owe to my adulthood. I must admit that it was some difficult events from my childhood and adolescence that forged that attitude; This is how I learned to give each event in life its importance and place.
What is emotional maturity?
The emotional maturityit has nothing to do with age. I know people who, although adults, are not mature in terms of their emotions.
An emotionally mature person learned -thanks to life events- and developed the ability to understand the pain of others (empathy) and his own, to have control over himself and to assume responsibility for his actions.
Learning to be emotionally mature is not easy. Doing so sometimes brings with it the deepest pains that leave their indelible marks on the life of the affected person; however, you always win because the person learned to overcome tragedies and also to put themselves in the place of others.
Habits that lead you to learn emotional maturity
1 Become aware of your emotions and thoughts
Doing so helps you be aware of your environment and helps you better adapt to it. This gives you greater control of your emotions, you do not judge lightly and you become more compassionate and able to accept your mistakes.
2 Learn from your mistakes
Life is full of difficulties, the trick is learn from mistakes that are committed because of those problems. Learning from past failures helps you become stronger and more resilient.
3 Be Assertive
This is the ability that the person develops to express their thoughts or feel about something (even if they do not agree with others) without disrespecting anyone. The point with this is that you take responsibility for what you say, but the way the receiver gets the message is beyond your control.
4 Active listening
Doing so consists of paying attention to how people are communicate not only verbally, but also learning to read it beyond words.
Much pain can be avoided when the person learns to be detached from objects, people, beliefs, memories and thoughts.
6 Don’t get stuck in the past
Think about this: “The past brings depression and the future anxiety, so it is better to live in the present.” Wallowing in your memories of the past only makes you suffer unnecessarily; In addition, it prevents you from enjoying the good things in your day to day life.
7 do not complain
Complaining about what you do or are made paralyzed and stagnant. It is the same as feeling self-pity and there is nothing more unproductive than that. When you take responsibility for your actions, you start to act and stop regretting.
Putting those 7 points into practice can be difficult, but as soon as you take the first step, life tends to take on itself in a better way. In this regard, you will find below 5 aspects that emotional maturity helps you accept.
5 realities that an emotionally mature person learns to accept
1 The world is not as you wish
The sooner you accept it, the less you will suffer. A person who understands that there are things that he cannot control, that he cannot push others to feel and think like them; she is a person who does not suffer unnecessarily.
2 Happiness is personal responsibility
Every decision you make has consequences; That is why it is absurd to blame others for the bad things that happen to you. When you take responsibility for your actions and decisions, you tend to be in control of yourself and therefore you learn that your happiness is your responsibility.
3 She knows that in her is the power to change when necessary
An emotionally mature person knows that to be happy you have to change if necessary. Change helps you grow and learn new things, helps you get away from toxic situations and people, which implies achieving well-being.
4 Has self-control
It can be difficult to control your emotions; but when it is achieved, it gives you that feeling of satisfaction because you are your own owner; because you don’t allow what other people do to influence or hurt you.
5 Being happy does not require being in love
This is a common belief, but to be happy you don’t have to live in a constant state of infatuation.
It’s not that I avoid be in love, is that you know whether or not you have someone in your life, you can be happy. When the emotionally mature person is in a relationship, they do not depend on the other to be happy. Understand that loving is helping yourself to grow and know the world; But being in a relationship is not the only source of happiness that exists.
Like everything in life that makes you stronger; Emotional maturity is something that is learned through a tough process of growth. We all got to be; but it does not depend on age, but on the disposition that each one has to want to be happy without leaving this state in the hands of others.