Don’t be ashamed if he says “my little thing” to you. It is a sign that the relationship is going very well.
When my husband calls me “Pi” in public, people turn to look. I think they are left wondering what kind of nickname that is, or what name it derives from. I am neither a letter of the Greek alphabet nor a mathematical formula. But such is the language of love.
I don’t remember the moment he started calling me “pee.” And suddenly, somehow, it got even shorter. Besides, I’m also “gordi”, but I don’t like that much anymore, although in my country it’s one of the most common nicknames that couples use.
The formula of love
According to experts, calling your partner affectionate, with funny and original nicknames, would mean that the satisfaction in the partner is high.
A study conducted by Carol Bruess and Judy Pearson indicates that the use of idiomatic expressions in the couple is closely related to the satisfaction and well-being of the members of the same. The research, published in theJournal of Personal and Social Relationships, took into account the study of 154 couples.
The more ridiculous, the stronger
The study found that those couples who used loving and ridiculous nicknames felt more intimate and satisfied than those couples who did not use them.
Kitten, puppy, bomboncito, chanchi, gordi, and many other nicknames that vary throughout the world, depending on the cultures and the language. Experts say there is nothing to be ashamed of, as this would be an indication that the relationship is going from strength to strength.
Call it like a puppy
The author of the research said that calling the couple like a puppy, in an affectionate way, is not accidental, since it is a very natural human behavior, due to the fact of appropriating language for certain purposes.
For Carol bruessThe terms we use with our partners are effective not only for showing affection, but also for when the going gets tough. Calling your partner affectionate in an argument can show that you are not in war mode.
Nicknames around the world
BBC made a compilation of the affectionate nicknames most used throughout the world, taking into account the language and different cultures.
It was funny to learn that Carla Bruni called her ex-husband Nicolás Sarkozy as “chuchu”, because at one time, that’s what my husband also called me. I even have letters addressed to me with that ridiculous but tender name at the same time.
Petit chou in France, which means small cabbage and it also derives from “chouchou” (pronounced chuchu). “Little pigeon” in Russia. Little elephant in Thailand (thank goodness I don’t live in Thailand). Or gazelle in Arabic.
Nicknames are hundreds around the world. But they all denote affection for the other. Having a particular name with your partner will make them feel unique and special.
What happens when we no longer give each other affectionate nicknames
Many couples tend to call each other funny, loving, and even ridiculous for many years, even if they have been married for decades.
But they are the exception. Well, according to experts, calling the couple in an affectionate way is more common in recently married couples, and it can decrease over time.
Couples ranging from newlyweds to those who had been together for 50 years were brought together in the study. And it was found that those couples who reported fewer nicknames for each other reported feeling less satisfied in their love life.
Nicknames that irritate
Not all are liked. It is not the same as calling you “bug” as calling you “bug.” Nor is it the same as being called “fat” as being called “fat”. And in my country, many husbands who have lived together for years often call their wives “witch.”
Although I have heard many men refer to their women as “the witch”, even if it is used for loving and funny purposes, not all women will be happy with the nickname. and others, it just moves them and laughs at the occurrence.
Choose the right nickname
Choose the nickname that maximizes its qualities and not its flaws. Don’t call him “bald,” “tummy,” “grumpy.” At first they may sound cute, but in a bad moment of the couple these nicknames can aggravate the situation.
Find out if he feels comfortable with the nickname you have chosen for him, as this is essential. And talk to your partner if a nickname he uses with you makes you uncomfortable or irritated.
Strengthening the bond
When we are comfortable with each other, language is one of the most powerful ways to show love. It is not by chance that we want to tell you how many loving words pass through our mind to address that person.
The effect of nicknames is wonderful. When you hear him call you in the affectionate and habitual way that he does, you set yourself up in another way to hear him. It is a private communication code, only yours, which gives that the emotional health of the couple is going on rails.
Meanwhile, the nickname can also be omitted when the person is angry. If you always call your sweetheart sweetie, bear, or bunny, but suddenly you address him with his first name, he probably knows that there is something upsetting you and you need him to know.
Keep being your sweetheart
Affectionate nicknames make us feel more attached to our partner. Although it is also true that some can embarrass us in public. The truth is that it is a way of showing that this person is unique to us. While some call you Paula, María or Carla, he will call you a sheep, a michina or a bichi.
May it continue to be your sweetheart despite the passing of the years. Addressing your partner in a loving way will make him feel special, and will maintain better communication and a more fluid relationship between you.