“You will reap what you sow”, you may have heard that phrase countless times. But have you ever reflected on the implications it can have on your life?
You reap what you sow. It is sure that you have listened to that phrase ad nauseam. Me too, but over the years I have discovered that it is much deeper than I came to think. And it is that in the situations in which we look only at the negative we realize, clearly, what we are sowing; but in some situations that escape our attention I don’t know if we will be so aware of it.
Thousands of times I have thought about the seeds I sow in my life. On many occasions I found myself denying a situation without really realizing that much of what I found had been sown by me, although at the moment it will be unfair. And it is that the nature of life is like this: if you plant pears you cannot expect the harvest to be apples. If you sow criticism, discord, worry and bad mood you will reap more of the same. Although the good thing about this is that if you sow smiles, kindness and empathy you will also reap that.
I live daily with people who complain about their reality. They complain because they cannot achieve their dreams, because they are not satisfied with their lives, or because the community in which they live is not to their satisfaction. With sadness I see that their lives sink into the impotence of not being able to modify them to make them more pleasant. I see them looking to blame outside of themselves, without taking charge of their part: some, because it is the way they learned to behave and do not know that they themselves can take charge of their lives; others, because it is more comfortable for them to look for the culprits abroad rather than to think of strategies to modify what is bothering them; and some more, because they do not believe they are capable of reversing it, they feel helpless or frustrated and do not know how to get out of that feeling. They are the ones that rotate on themselves to the point of turning the place where they live into a great hole. I do not say it with contempt, I also had to inhabit that space until I learned to abandon it.
Therefore, if you are not happy with your planting and you need to make big changes in your life, I humbly share with you a few tips that helped me change my course and make my existence a happier place.
Avoid thinking about what you lack in life. Think about what you want to achieve and have in it.
Focus on what you would like to enjoy. Don’t think about what you don’t like or what makes you complain, because that attitude makes you attract more of that into your life.
Reflect on what is in your hands to be able to change now. Avoid remembering the past or thinking that your life will always remain the same. Do it little by little and with conviction. Any change, even if you consider it small, will be the first step towards the great transformations you are looking for.
Avoid feeling sorry for yourself. Do not think about what others want or expect of you and try, instead, to make yourself impervious to criticism; When others realize that they are useless, they will stop doing it and you can use your energy by focusing on thinking about how you want to live your life.
Start your day by thanking for all the wonderful things you have that make you a better person. Over time you will discover that there are more things to be thankful for.
Be the great farmer of your life today. All the good seeds that you sow now will be the great fruits that you will raise tomorrow. Don’t wait for someone to come offer them to you or for someone else to water them. Take care of your garden as the most wonderful place you want to inhabit.