We cannot always anticipate, much less know where the danger lies. But what we can and must do is take the necessary precautions to reduce risks.
I’ve been hearing some terrible news lately about babysitters. Some are about the romantic: girls who suddenly dream of playing “house” and end up seducing the parents of the children they care for. Others go beyond anything imaginable and account for people who, using their position of trust in the family, kidnap or harm minors.
A recent example of these atrocities occurred in Russia, where Gulchekhra Bobokulova, who worked as a babysitter, – first arguing jealousy, and later political issues – decided to take revenge for real or imagined offenses on the four-year-old girl, whom she cared for. Perhaps you read me and think that what I am talking about does not affect you: after all, you are not one of those who is in a position to pay to take care of their children. But I’m not talking about a person you pay, but anyone you delegate the care of your children.
Many times it is the urgency that forces parents to put their children in the hands of others, and it is this same urgency that does not allow us to notice who is the person chosen to do it. The problem is that during that time when we are apart, there is always the risk of putting our children in the possibility of becoming victims of unscrupulous, cruel or even mentally ill beings that we do not know. Therefore, here are some tips so that you can take care of your family effectively.
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Tips to take care of those who care
1. Think ahead of the person
Do not wait for an emergency situation to arrive to decide. The best thing is that beforehand you have an idea of who to turn to if you need it. Preferably have a plan A, one B and one C. That way you will cover eventualities and, of course, make sure you have all the necessary information about that person.
2. Never leave your child with whom he is not comfortable
It often happens that if the child throws a tantrum, we take him for spoiled and force him to accept our decision. Perhaps it is simple nonsense, but it could also be that he is trying to get a message to you. Pay close attention to how your child behaves when that someone is around. If you were cared for by that person before, and your child is afraid of him, inquire carefully. Perhaps there is some compelling reason, more than the simple fear of being away from you for a while.
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3. Do not leave the minor under the exclusive care of a person
The best thing is that there is more than one who can take care of it, that way they monitor each other and both of the child. Or if it can’t be that way, ask a relative or acquaintance to be on the lookout. Remember that all precautions are few when it comes to children.
4. Leave the child in a familiar place.
Leaving children with third parties and in a place they do not know is very dangerous. Make sure that the place where they take care of your child is a territory that he and you fully know; if possible, provide instructions on what to do if something happens.
5. Ask for details of everything that happens
Obviously this is only possible after you have left your child in the care of a third party, but it is important that you ask questions that will let you know what happened while you were away. From the answers you get, you can conclude if it was a good idea to leave it in the care of that person and if it is okay or not for you to do it again. Be wary if there are not enough details, especially from children who – as we know – tend to tell everything, everything.
We cannot always anticipate, much less know where the danger is, if it were, we would not allow bad things to happen. But what we can and should do is take the necessary precautions to reduce the chances of them happening, especially when it comes to choosing who we leave our children with.
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