Are You Sure You Have Educated Your Children Well?

I can give you a thousand tips from the comfort of my computer on how to be a father, but if you who are a father do not evaluate and commit yourself, people like me will write to write and you will read only to read.

Let’s do an exercise: I’m going to share a list with you, and appealing to honesty with yourself, I encourage you to recognize if both you, as a parent, promote values ​​in your children and if they put them into practice. (The “yes” are the highest possible score, the “no” the worst case scenario, and the “sometimes” means that both parties require more effort).

Why invest your time in this exercise? Because parents assume their children as the “best children” and themselves as the “best parents” is normal, but that does not help either one or the other in their growth. I can give you a thousand tips from the comfort of my computer on how to be a father, but if you who are a father do not evaluate and commit yourself, people like me will write to write and you will read nothing else to read.

I know how difficult it is for something negative to be said about children and their upbringing. Acknowledging our parental mistakes reveals our faults. To say “I was not a father – also understand mother – present, loving, responsible, pending, and a good example”, is to admit that we do not prioritize responsibilities correctly and that we are as guilty of their mistakes as they who committed them.

However, the idea is not that you speak ill of yourself, but that you take steps to correct what needs to be corrected. Fatherhood is also about that, about learning as you go; of making mistakes sometimes, of hitting him many others; of being good, bad and regular without this defining our history, or the history of our children, but always with full awareness of what kind of parents we want to be and what kind of children, but especially people, we are raising.

How well have you raised your children?

  • Do your children respect their elders and peers?

  • Do they speak properly and without rudeness?

  • Do they take care not to litter, and do they respect animals?

  • Do you help who needs it?

  • Do they collaborate at home?

  • Do they respect differences, and who are they different?

  • Do you believe in the effort to achieve success?

  • Are you ashamed when you make a mistake?

  • Do they differentiate good from evil?

  • Do they think of others?

  • Do they apologize when they do something wrong?

  • Do they know how to forgive?

  • If they find something that is not theirs, do they return it?

Excusing them, assuming them always innocent, tearing your clothes when someone else points out and punishing their faults does not make you a good father, and blaming bad company does not make them less guilty. You must recognize that if they seek and like that type of friendships it is because they share the same values ​​or lack of them.

Consistency and consistency between what you say, do and allow your children to say and do, make all the difference in their character. Children are independent beings from their parents, but at the same time it is the parents’ business to cultivate consciousness in them. Seeing your children without the children’s suit, but with the skin of people, is important so that you can appreciate if you are doing it well or if you urgently need to change tactics. To finish, I invite you to reread these two articles:

Reread: Educa not hurt: the blows are not the solution.

I also invite you to reread: 7 strategies that appear to be very good, but with your children they do not work a bit.

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