Words can hurt much more than you can imagine. What to do to avoid hurting people? Five tips to achieve it.
One of the most powerful weapons that the human being has is the word itself because, as Robert Burton would say: “It hurts more deeply than a sword”, since this – for example as an offense – can remain in the memory of the person who was attacked, it does not matter if the offender is apologized or not.
According to a study by the University of Georgia Regents, people tend to be more aggressive towards those they know and love. This could be due to the knowledge of your mistakes and weaknesses; however, aspects such as character, the mood you are in, and your problems or concerns can also play a role.
Here are some actions you can take to avoid hurting people:
1. Take a deep breath
When you find yourself in a difficult situation, in which you feel that you are already losing control, breathe deeply for several seconds; focus on relaxing your body and mind; it will help you close your eyes. At first it is not easy, but if you make an effort you will achieve it in a faster and more efficient way.
2. Think before you speak
Quino, the cartoonist who created Mafalda, once said: “It is not necessary to say everything that is thought, what is necessary is to think everything that is said.” Although the moment is complicated, analyze your thoughts (which are only yours) and what you really need to say so as not to hurt.
3. Measure your words
It is true that there are individuals more sensitive than others, but it is also true that all human beings equally have feelings, and although some prefer to hide them, it is damaged in the same way. Therefore, try to be as cautious and subtle as you can; If you were to switch places with that person, ask yourself how you would prefer to be spoken to.
Relee: Never put humility aside.
Before you express your feelings about a situation, do a self-evaluation, ask yourself: Am I in a position to speak? Are you asking me directly? Is my opinion essential to clarify or help in any way? Am I totally sure what to say? Do I have the necessary knowledge or experience to comment?
5. Take care of your body expression
The gestures, the look, the position of the body, the hands, the arms and the movements that you make are also part of your language; Therefore, try not to project mockery, annoyance, annoyance or ignore the person; pay attention to what he says and show him respect at all times.
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It is part of our composition to make mistakes, but that does not mean that hurtful words are said to destroy if it can be said with the sweetness of a cactus to build.