Let’s face it, life is crazy. And it takes a toll on our relationships.
Let’s face it, life is crazy. Trying to keep up with the hustle and bustle of our daily lives is overwhelming. Work, family, commitments, school, soccer, dance classes, friends, health, birthday parties, holidays, babies, and everything in between. Sometimes we analyze the week and wonder how it went by so quickly. Our lives are so busy, they fill every second of our schedule.
One of the challenges you may face as a result of this is staying connected with your partner. But putting your relationship in the background can very quickly create cracks in the foundation of marriage. And a cracked base is difficult to repair.
To prevent this from happening, it’s important to make your marriage a priority, despite all the challenges and stress it throws at us every day. To keep your marriage strong, it is important that you stay in touch with each other.
Here are a few ideas to help you stick with your spouse.
Affirm your love, before the day begins
Start your day with a connection. Before work, children, headaches and fatigue take their place. Make sure your partner feels your love: start the day with a big kiss, a sweet hug, or at least, a sincere: “I love you.” It may sound simple, but often it’s the simple things that can make a big difference in a relationship. Something as simple as a warm kiss can leave your husband thinking about you all day. Start the day with an intentional connection to your spouse.
We all want to feel appreciated, but many times we forget the power of a single word: “Thank you.” Look for opportunities to thank your spouse.
Show your appreciation for little things like taking out the trash, as well as big things like going to work every day so they can have a better life. Don’t stop expressing your gratitude.
Make sure your husband knows that you appreciate everything he does. Say, “Thank you,” and say it often. Your spouse will feel more connected to you by feeling that you appreciate what they do.
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Schedule date nights
Date nights are an absolute must for a healthy marriage. However, date nights don’t have to be complicated.
The purpose of date nights is to reconnect with each other. That could mean something as simple as asking Grandma to babysit at her house and returning to eat pizza on the living room floor. If it is too difficult to find a babysitter, schedule regular date nights at home after the children go to bed. Stay offline, play something fun, ask silly questions, and focus on each other.
RomanceIt is not impossible even with children at home
Remember old times in the relationship, when did you feel most connected, passionate, and happy? It is likely that it was in the early days when they were dating.
One reason is that in the early days they spent a great deal of time alone. They went out for a walk, they talked on the phone, maybe they traveled. So as marriage and life settle down, that alone time begins to diminish, often becoming non-existent. But maintaining a healthy marriage requires couples to take time to be alone.
Stay connected as a couple by escaping for a couple of days. If there are few resources, send the kids to Grandma or Aunts for a few days and stay home. You will be amazed at how much a couple of days of reconnecting and falling in love with each other can accomplish in the relationship.
“And they lived happily ever after”: How to make this phrase a reality today
It’s easy to disconnect from your partner. Everyone has a lot of work, too many things to do and many places to go. But placing everything else before our partner can cause very serious and sometimes irreparable damage.
Make your marriage a priority and stay together with your spouse. By making a conscious effort to be together, you are giving your marriage all the nutrients it needs to be healthy and thrive.
_Translated by Myrna del Carmen Flores from ” 4 ways to stay connected to your spouse” by Tammy Greene