Marriage is a wonderful mission, though often challenging. Here are three ways to combine confidence in yourself, your marriage, and a higher power to strengthen your relationship and avoid divorce.
Marriage is much more than a license, a ceremony and a promise made through a symbolic jewel. Marriage is a spiritual union of two souls who have been guided towards each other to serve a higher good and create a spiritual family. The exchange of promises is a sacred ritual on a journey whose real meaning has eluded many. When the ideals and fantasies you have about what marriage is like or what it feels like start to fade, and the reality of responsibilities set in, your spiritual and emotional health take a back seat and divorce may seem like an attractive option to stop the marriage. fight and stop suffering.
If your marriage is in jeopardy, and you begin to doubt the choices you leaned on, step back and take a breath. Close your eyes and remember that there is always where to turn when you feel like you’ve lost your way. Remember your faith, whatever it may be. Faith will give you strength and clarity and help you shift your mind, body, and spirit toward something that attracts the experience you want.
So how do you find the faith you need to keep your marriage strong and long-lasting? Here are three ways:
1. Believe in each other
Finding faith in a partner who has let you down can be painful and difficult. You could spend so much energy trying to reform each other that you forget to believe and trust you. But how can you trust someone who doesn’t seem to be getting better, or struggling to make the relationship work?
Trust that your spouse may be different, whether you see the changes or not. Instead of focusing on past mistakes, or present frustration, trust that your spouse has the ability to be all that he or she strives to be. And that’s the key. Trust that your partner can stand up to their own standards, or the standards of a higher power, not just yours. No two people are the same, even if it is a union that shares the same faith it does not mean that you and your spouse share identical values or principles in every aspect. Nor that those same ideals manifest themselves in identical ways. Find out exactly what your partner thinks and feels about all aspects of marriage, its meaning and manifestations. Then trust that it will happen. For now, do the same for yourself.
2. Trust your marriage
Your marriage is an orderly expression of the lessons of a spiritual system. You and your spouse were united to accomplish something momentous, and this was not done lightly or in vain. The entity that your spouse, your higher power, and you created is greater than the two of you; more than the sum of the parts. But with great power comes great responsibility. Defending your spiritual principles when facing daily adversity becomes paramount as you raise a family in the grace and omnipresence of your higher power. Keeping the faith means looking beyond the temporal, the mundane, and the obstacles to your physical and spiritual success. Trust your marriage in the same way that you believe in your higher power and its plans for both of you. Find or rediscover the purpose you were destined to fulfill together, and be a role model for your children. Teach them to seek the meaning of life’s difficulties and the divine within their marriage.
3. Believe in your way
Your marriage is an achievement on a lifelong journey to happiness and peace. In marriage, your path has merged with another’s path, and you are sharing this sacred space as part of both journeys. Marriage is an intersection that you can cross ignoring the signs and possibly causing a collision. Or you can slow down and guide the other passengers to their destination – your wife and children.
Your path came to the problems I had to face. Even when you feel lost and aimless, you may not have a map, but the correct road is the one you are on now, and you and your spouse are traveling in the same direction. Travel together. You’ll need fresh air on a break, but use that time to recharge, regroup, and reunite yourself, your spouse, and your higher power. You and your life partner cross the road as a way to guide each other home. View your marriage as a vehicle that was created to help yourself and find your inner power, strength, and love.
My parents, through 30 years of marriage, were excellent role models in teaching me how to choose a mate and navigate the bumpy roads and stay connected. Marriage has difficulties, the assurance that together they can overcome anything teaches me in many ways how I want this stage of my journey to manifest.
The key to keeping the faith and avoiding divorce is not avoiding divorce, it is to make your marriage flourish. Be as truly involved in your marriage as you are in your faith. Believe in Him. Trust Him. Know that He will guide and protect you. Remind yourself how far they have come, and how much they have overcome. Looking forward to how far they are going to go, and how much more there is to experience. And consider, mainly, how you got here, and the reason for it. And then let go, and let faith guide you the rest of your journey through marriage, family, and life.