Do you see these behaviors and abilities in your children?
In order to find a general pattern of growth and provide specialists with a reference to carry out their diagnoses, the World Health Organization has established “Growth Patterns”, taking a sample from different countries such as Brazil, Ghana, India, Norway, Oman and the United States.
This study was conducted to obtain baseline data that adequately describes “how children should grow up.” It was carried out with two age groups 0-2 years and another group from 18 months to 5 years of age.
As a result, “standards for normal growth” were obtained.
According to these standards, most health centers are managed, where our children are assisted and evaluated.
10 signs that your child is normal
Understanding that a normal pattern has a broad spectrum, which is sometimes confused between high expectations that parents have for their children, or otherwise no attention is paid, I share a list of behaviors expected by children between the ages of 2- 5 years. Remember that all normal patterns cease to be so, when the behavior is not expected for that age.
- Difficulty staying still:
This is so normal among young children, especially before 3, but some children continue this pattern until 5. Once they enter school, it slows down and they learn to sit still for longer periods.
Very normal, the stages are mixed, between learning to sleep alone (1-2 years), then starting to use the bathroom at night, and finally the typical fears of 5-year-old children.
This has to do with the development of the notion of time in children in their early and full development (Piaget, Development of the notions of space, time and place). While for us waiting 5-10 minutes has a literal meaning, for them it is very relative and depends on the experience.
- There are children who bite and hit:
Although they are not accepted actions, it is very normal for young children to bite, even more so they have a stage called “cannibalism” during lactation (when they bite the mother’s nipple), which is very natural. IF it happens in children older than 3-5 years, if it is directed appropriately, then you forget it.
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- You don’t want to greet or kiss everyone:
Good manners include the arrival and departure greetings, and while as parents we want them to learn it, remember that they learn by example, but don’t force them to kiss everyone.
- Changes of emotions, from joy to tears:
And vice versa, let’s just remember that when they change from joy to crying that even if it is not the best, it is very easy to make a child laugh when they are sad.
- He likes to have blankets, bears:
Especially at bedtime, it is cozy for them, they feel protected and if we give them a hug even better.
- Is disgusted by a denial:
Children are capricious by nature, some are not more docile but that depends on the temperament of each child. Caprice is normal, what happens next depends on how we approach the situation.
Especially in children who do not feel loved at home or rejected or devalued. Every child wants to be loved and respected.
No child is born knowing how to share, it takes time for him to understand the notion of totality, rather they are perceived as a unit, and only they exist. The child easily learns to share, you just have to teach him.
As a professional, and in my experience in the office, I have learned to focus more on “possibility” than on “normalcy”, thus showing parents to learn to enjoy their children more as they are.
Normality as a measure of growth
I always remember what I learned with my mentor and teacher Dr. Psychopedagogue and Specialist in babies with Down Syndrome, Clara Saul de Vainstub, when the parents of their patients came to his office for the first time with the typical anxiety of knowing how he saw them, she always answered “I see a child playing”, in this way normalizing the expectations of the parents.
In college I also learned that in order to understand abnormal forms or slow development, I first had to know NORMAL development, known as developmental development of the child.
The concept of “Normality” within the evolutionary development of a child is broader and more flexible than is supposed, since other factors such as environmental, hereditary and economic must be taken into account, but in general development occurs through a constant and only the speed with which each child reaches it is different, in simple words, for each skill, there is a normal age range.